I am not one for New Year’s resolutions simply because as soon as I set a goal, I sabotage myself. It used to really annoy me until 2016, the year I discovered the joyful strategy of habit classification and formation by Gretchen Rubin. Now, a proud Rebel, I accept the fact that I can’t trust myself and go with the flow! * Exclaims with tears rolling down her cheeks*
2019 was a tough year if only because I experienced real burnout. It kicked my butt big time and I am not ready to talk about it. What I will say is that burnout-shmurnout made me reevaluate my life and my goals, reinforcing the shy idea of simply slowing down and focusing on who I am now and who I want to be in the future. Silver lining.
My Intentions for 2020
My biggest goal is to become a better person. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.
Now, my definition of a better person will probably be different to what you consider betterment so here are some steps that will take me closer to that ambiguous target:
- I want to spend more time offline.
- I want to learn more.
- I want to give back through volunteering.
To keep my eyes on the ball I – and I really recommend this! – prepared a PowerPoint presentation, which contains a list of mini-goals, my yearly intention, inspiring photos and some words of wisdom I pulled from my diary as a reminder that I know myself and I should trust my gut. Putting it together in December was such empowering exercise! I saved the whole thing on Google Drive so I can look at it whenever I need to.
Being online doesn’t make anyone a bad person but being part of the Internet culture tends to poison the mind when you least expect it. I have decided that being preoccupied with other people’s lives, be it through a silly article, a gossip column or scrolling through endless feeds, I am giving up on myself. I am not doing things for myself. Instead, I am constantly uploading images of who I am not into my brain.
“Sticking to the goal of spending less time online is a difficult task for a marketer, especially one in love with content marketing and SEO.” That’s what I thought too! The thing is, there is a simple and ingenious way of connecting the need to be online and the want to carve an offline healing space. The word is ‘intention‘.
It’s amazing how liberating it feels to shift the way you think about the virtual world – from a firm component of one’s life to just one of the options when working and living. Being online with clear intentions is a very time-efficient way of working. Another decision contributed to my lower dependency on the Internet – I stopped reading things that have no actual effect on my life aside from consuming my time. I will go through my list of work-related and interest-related websites saved in my browser’s bookmarks and switch off. Exhale. Go live your life away from your desk.
On that note, if you are looking for some worthwhile content on Facebook, I would like to give a shoutout to Andreea Baudici. I met Andreea in 2014, when she replaced me as Marketing Manager in an event company in Bratislava that I used to work for. She is a BRILLIANT marketer, who changed her path and became a Life & Career Coach. Her Facebook posts are like a hug.
Learning more. I love learning. Whether it’s through reading or watching videos or observing people or reflecting on my own journey. I have started doing online courses and the first completed course of 2020 brought me SO MUCH satisfaction. It was Learning How to Learn: Powerful mental tools to help you master tough subjects and I recommended it to anyone, who wants to improve their learning techniques.
Online learning is one of the permanent element of my personal growth strategy introduced in 2015 when I was jobless and freshly moved to Vienna. It started with YouTube and continued through Skillshare (amazing selection of creative courses!), Udemy, CreativeLive, FutureLearn and Coursera. If you are thinking about learning new things, explore what they have to offer – many courses are for free!
Finally, the desire to give was something I felt again in December last year. I used to volunteer regularly and I finally felt that I would like to renew that activity in Vienna, a place I am starting to think about as my home. I am hoping to start in January with tutoring kids in English and then… who knows. I will go with the flow.